insidious
Harmful in a sneaky, slow way that’s hard to notice.
Insidious describes something harmful that spreads or works in a sneaky, gradual way that's hard to notice until real damage is done. Think of how rust slowly weakens metal: you might not see it happening day by day, but eventually you discover the metal has become dangerously weak.
An insidious lie is one that seems small and harmless at first but slowly poisons a friendship over time. An insidious disease might cause no obvious symptoms early on, quietly damaging the body before anyone realizes something's wrong. Bad habits can be insidious too: staying up a little later each night might not seem like a big deal, but after weeks you're exhausted and struggling in school without quite understanding why.
Something insidious is lying in wait, working against you in ways you don't fully see. It's more dangerous than an obvious threat precisely because it operates under the radar. A bully who openly picks on someone is terrible, but an insidious bully who spreads quiet rumors that gradually turn everyone against their target is harder to fight because the harm happens slowly and secretly.