refractory
Very hard to control or fix, even after many tries.
Refractory means stubbornly resistant to control, treatment, or change. A refractory student refuses to follow classroom rules no matter how many times the teacher tries different approaches. A refractory cough keeps going despite medicine, rest, and everything else you try.
When something is refractory, it pushes back against your efforts to fix or change it. Doctors use this word often: refractory epilepsy means seizures that don't respond to standard medications. Engineers talk about refractory materials like special bricks that can withstand incredibly high temperatures in furnaces without melting or breaking down.
Notice that refractory suggests more than simple stubbornness. It implies that serious, repeated efforts have already failed. A problem becomes refractory when normal solutions don't work anymore. If your little brother won't clean his room once, he's being difficult. If he continues refusing despite weeks of consequences and conversations, his behavior might be called refractory.
The word often carries a tone of frustration, because refractory problems are genuinely hard to solve. They require patience, creativity, and sometimes accepting that certain things resist easy fixes.