vitriolic
Extremely harsh and hurtful, like poisonous or burning words.
Vitriolic means bitterly harsh and cruel in speech or writing. When someone makes vitriolic comments, they're attacking with words meant to wound and destroy, going far beyond simple criticism or disagreement. The word suggests something corrosive and poisonous, like acid eating through metal.
You might encounter vitriolic language in heated political debates, where opponents don't just disagree but try to tear each other down with vicious insults. A vitriolic review of a book doesn't just say “I didn't like it” but savagely attacks everything about it. During an argument, someone might unleash a vitriolic speech full of personal attacks rather than addressing the actual issue.
While honest criticism can be valuable and even necessary, vitriolic attacks aim only to harm and humiliate.
When disagreements become vitriolic, they stop being productive. People dig in, relationships break, and nobody learns anything. The opposite of vitriolic would be respectful, constructive, or civil: ways of disagreeing that leave room for understanding.